in this world, somebody still trusts you
xav / nala rain
xav / nala / neo / xavin / xavier / rain
qtpoc
neurodivergent
about
early to mid twenties
bisexual / pansexual
queer
trans
non-binary
autistic
ad(h)d
multigender
agender, demiboy & demigirl
sometimes genderfluid
gender non-conforming
aligning with nblm/mlm and sapphics
african
(south african) coloured (mixed race) / black (its complicated tbh i don’t wanna take up space so i’d place us as non-black poc who also do or need to acknowledge our blackness and also work through and against the ways we are used which are harmful. we’re african and at least in part indigenous too so while noting that, i also think there’s many conversations to be had and that lightskinned folk and coloured folk have a lot of work to do) / asian and other ancestry
artist and writer by heart
battling depression and anxiety
rules
> non-gendered/gender-neutral language is most ideal when referring to me
> if there are exceptions just check in/ask me first!
> please do not 'ma'am' me
> use trigger warnings please
> do not save my selfies from this app (twt) unless we're close or you've asked me
> nicknames and terms of endearment are generally okay and I tend to use them for others so lemme know if I do and it's not okay please.
Do Not Follow If
> you are under sixteen (preferably since I am an adult, I keep nsfw to my priv accs so it should be fine but its important to associate with people your own age.
> you are racist, homophobic, queerphobic, transphobic, misogynistic, ableist, fatphobic, lesbophobic, aphobic, biphobic, and so on...
> under transphobic, racist and ableist falls truscum and transmeds, goodbye.
> you fetishise mlm or sapphics or trans folx, for example if you're non-mlm/nblm and talk about queer men in sexual contexts or engage with m/m explicit content, or push heteronormativity onto queer folx.
> are a fujo / fujoshi.
> use words like 'yaoi' and 'twink' and yet you aren't mlm.
> think incest or pedophilia is okay or engage with any such content.
> ship real people or write real person fiction
> think there are no issues with mdzs bc i'm mxtx critical.
> aren't critical of the people / things you stan.
interests
WangXian are my special interest
but i talk about them more on my priv priv accs
here for qtpoc / qpoc / tpoc / poc
and especially those of us who are neurodivergent / disabled
-carrd still work in progress-
TALK TO ME ABOUT
being queer, trans, poc, neurodivergent
and just in general, i'm happy to make friends
feel free to come to me if you need anything, or wish to talk about or work through gender things, and so on, I am always here to help.
or if I've done something wrong or follow someone who did.
NAMES & PRONOUNS
xav and my other names except nala are okay if we’re complete strangers but its okay to call me nala after a while, its just my more personal name
nala is okay to use too if we talk or are mutuals
(i have two main names, xav and nala but my other names are all my first names too - they’re in my bio etc
nala is my more personal names and so i prefer xav for non-mutuals)
nicknames are usually okay, and endearments too
two of my nicknames are rainbow and xav although that’s a name on its own too
they/them are my general & primary pronouns but if you have access to my private accounts you can check for my more personal set of pronouns there which have sprinkles of other pronouns and/or check my pronouny accs (links below) ♡
pronounys:
for those who only have my main
for those who have my private accs
main / personal / stan acc - @nonbinaryquing
main / personal / local / art - @queerafricanism
priv for @nonbinaryquing - @nonbinarymagnus
nsfw / priv priv for @nonbinaryquing - @weiyingslanzhan